Surround yourself with people who get it.
by Sandi Maki
What is it exactly? It is whatever you need it to be. In a recent conversation with my son, who is quite intellectual I enjoyed our discussion of current events in his life. During our conversation I reminded him that throughout life it will be very important for him to surround himself with people who “get it”. In his case it will be people who can keep up with his mind and offer stimulating and interesting conversations. He can traverse intellectual and philosophical conversations with ease. I find this an admirable quality in a 16, soon to be 17 year old, let alone a person of any age.
My son’s approach to conversation delights me. We can have witty banter, and throw in topics such as personalities, science, and the origins of the universe. We can discuss moods, actions and behaviors of people, and can relate it back to each of our lives. One day after such a discussion my son looked at me and asked “Wouldn’t it be cool if we could get a group of people together and have conversations like this?” It was a very proud mom moment. Of course in my life I have actively searched out opportunities to have these very discussions! I have been a member of a mastermind group regularly for the past 7 years, as well as a part of several book clubs and philosophical discussion groups.
This past weekend my son and I launched an intellectual Cafe’. We each invited a few people to see how it would work out. The first meeting sported my son (16 years old), and other guests in their 30’s, 40’s, and 50’s respectively. It was a great meeting with super discussion, and had each participant looking forward to the next meeting. Word spread, and the RSVP’s have increased.
In the quest to surround yourself with people who get it, you can wait for them to come to you. Or you can plant a flag and let them know just where you’ll be and invite those conversations.