What? Homework for the parents? A week deadline? I’m supposed to have it turned in by Tuesday? Well, since you want to find out as much as possible about my seventh grade student, I suppose I should give it a try. First, let me say that if you had each parent type up a blog post about their child, it might be a whole lot easier to go through the results. You could do keyword searching, linking, and categorizing. Instead, I am assuming you’ll get half typed letters, half hand-written, and if any parent’s handwriting is as gregarious as mine, you may have a bit of trouble deciphering what they say.
I’ll be the parent who’s note comes to school that will require translation from my child. I know what it says, and somehow it seems that sometimes I am the only one. He’ll be able to make an educated guess, since he’ll have some context of what it’s about.
So, on to the assignment, all about my wonderfully awesome seventh grade student. He’s a fun kid. Always looking for the sunny side of things, he’s friendly to just about anyone he meets. I’ll let you in on a little secret, well, it’s not so secret, but it might help you out just the same. As a teacher you probably meet lots of kids (uh?). Yes, I know that you do. You may even have some means of classifying behavior styles. Maybe it’s common to teach it in teacher school, but as a parent I didn’t learn it until about a year ago. Personality studies are so helpful in our lives, and when it comes to my child, it has been super helpful. You see, my student has two strong personality styles that are the polar oppostie of mine. When you do the personality test either via DISC or Personality Plus, you get four quadrants. If we were explaining them in terms of bumble bees, they’d be the bossy bee, the busy bee, the brainy bee, and the bee-able bee. I (the mom) am a Bossy/Busy Bee combination. My wonderful seventh grade student is a Bee-able/Brainy Bee. That means that when I think we’re in a hurry, he’s not. It also means that he gets along with just about everyone, seeks the peaceful way of a situation, and if the fire drill is sounding he’s stopping to tie his shoe or analyze the amount of time it might take to put the fire out. Still an amazing combination since he is smart, inquisitive and lends himself to many interesting conversations.
My seventh grade student lives with his Bossy/Busy Bee mother, his Busy/Bossy Bee (High School Freshman) Sister, and friendly fluffy pal Nola (shih tzu puppy) who is still in the learning how to become a big dog stage. It’s doubtful that she’ll ever eat his homework, but his socks, that’s another story.
He’s a great sport, very athletic, though he’ll not seek out individual sports. He likes to be a part of the team, and again because of his personality will not be the take charge or get in there quickly kind of player. He’s going to stand back, watch, and then make his move, in his own time. If he becomes fired up (backed into a corner, or mad) he’ll then take definitive action. One trait of his personality is that he’s loyal to someone until they’ve done something to make him question that loyalty, then chances are you won’t get it back. It’s very important to someone with his particular personality not to cause him embarassment, especially in front of a group. That will put you on his avoidance list, and no amount of effort will get you back on the other one.
So, Kyle will sometimes be the first to volunteer, other times he’ll wait to be called on. Occasionally he’ll try to be silly or funny to gain some respect in the eyes of his peers. He clearly knows right from wrong, though sometimes in boy fashion tries to push the limits just to see what will happen.
Very introspective, he is a gifted storyteller and creator. He thinks in terms of big theory and exploring how things work. He’s got an incredible vocabulary, a strong sense of spelling and context, and is pretty academically gifted. Though, because of the personality thing again, won’t necessarily strive to be at the top of the class. He’ll settle there somewhere, though if he’s not the winner or at the top of the roster it won’t bother him. If he’s bored, it might seem that he’s not applying himself, so the key is to keep him challenged.
I think you’ll find him a joy to have around. He’s quite the character, and understands things that we might think are beyond his comprehension. He’s not going to be the first to volunteer to try something new, but once over his initial hesitation, and with a bit of a push, he’s usually thankful on the other side.
I recently headed out of town, and before I left he was trying to convince me that he needed new shoes that don’t squeak. We had a rather fun dialogue about how the kids at school would give him a hard time and he’d be “sadly” the only kid at school with squeaky shoes. So his mother informed him that the help desk would be with him on Tuesday, and that put an end to that part of the conversation.
I am so proud to be his mom. He’s fun, inspiring, thoughtful, and interesting. I am enjoying his adolescent years, and am so excited to continue to see the person that he is becoming. I recently read a post on Facebook that another mom had put up about a group of boys age 10-12, saying how wonderful and polite the boys were, thinking that the parent’s must be doing something right. I think we are, and I also think that are children are finding a place to be themselves, learn from everything, and present their best selves to the world. That’s what I’ve got in my son.
Thanks for the opportunity to share.
As an fyi, this post is nowhere near a million words, it’s currently at 1035.