Ep. 04 – ‘Dreams’ – Heavy Breathing Just Before Midnight with Sandi Maki

My thought tonight was that I sure hoped when I hit record I had something to share. I had no idea what I’d talk about (and I have all kinds of pressures that I am putting on myself to make this little series matter). Then I started, because if I have a thought of something that I should be doing, or should be done, I believe it would be done already. So I hit record, and the next 20 minutes just flowed through me – not even knowing what I was saying, but believing that the words would be there…and they were. Here’s the result of my being one within my moment. You’ll understand what I mean when you consider this is my response to the question that I’ll ask you here:

Heavy Breathing Just before Midnight Podcast Episode 4: What if it was just a thought that made your dream your life?

All right, I officially clicked the record button on 11:59 p.m. in the Eastern Standard time zone, which would keep this on track with heavy breathing just before midnight. This is Sandi Maki. Thanks for stopping back to check out another random insightful rambling blog post/podcast/episode from me. I appreciate all of the views that I am getting on this service, so that means that somebody out there is listening, so apparently I need to keep coming up with interesting things to talk about.

I was contemplating what the topics for tonight’s conversation would be. The thing that keeps coming up for me is asking the question: If you never had to think about working another day in your life because money was not an object and the sky was the limit, and you could do absolutely anything that you wanted to do, I would like to know what that would be. I think that there is a place for each of us to ask ourselves that question and come up with whatever the answer may be. I also think that when we ask ourselves this question, we often struggle with just the simple fact that we get to ask the question. I have asked myself that question: What would I do if money was not an object and I could do anything that I want? The answer that most often pops into my head is I would be a bartender on a beach under a palm tree in a tiki hut. What better way to get to converse with people all day long, find out really cool stories, meet awesome people, and be in just a place of pure enjoyment, pure bliss on a beach. I think it would be a really, really cool thing. Of course, if I got to do that, I would probably get tired of it after about a day and a half because I have not done it before and the grass is always greener on the other side, but maybe it would that. Have you ever asked yourself the question: What would you do? I do some business coaching, life coaching, and I use that question a lot. I even use it just in entrepreneur coaching when people are thinking that they would like to start something new that is always my question. If the answer that I get from people is even remotely close to what it is that they are going to do in their entrepreneurial venture then normally I feel pretty good about that. If somebody is trying to start something new of an entrepreneurial nature and their answer to what they would do every day or some days for the rest of their life if they had a complete blank canvas, if they are nothing alike, then my followup is normally “What could we do to get you closer to the thing that you would like to do all the time. Sometimes there is a really cool way of tying it together and sometimes it is cause for people to reevaluate what it is that they are going to be doing.

Sit with this for just a minute. I will ask you the question, and really contemplate it as I am asking. If you could wake up tomorrow and if you could do absolutely anything that you wanted to do and money was no object, what would you do?

You probably have a whole lot of thoughts running around in your head right about now, don’t you? I know when I asked myself the question, even though I do have an answer, if I were to say okay, eliminate my first answer. So I am not going to be a bartender on a beach under a palm tree; what is the next thing that comes to mind? I have all kinds of things that come to mind, and then my voice inside of my head kicks in and it says “You couldn’t possibly do that. You would never be able to make a living at that even though, remember, this scenario is that money is not an object, so it really does not matter. Some of the other dialogues that run through my head are “Who do you think you are? You haven’t put in the time, the effort, and the sacrifice yet to be able to do that. It just can’t be that easy.” And hundreds and hundreds more. We have so many thoughts. Our brains are just absolutely fantastic because we have the capacity to think about multiple things at any given time and we can fire questions off in our head just as quickly as we can keep up with them consciously. What if you were able to ask yourself this question, and what if you were able to get an honest to goodness response from that place inside of you that drives your inner motivation? What if it were just that easy? Ponder that with me for just a second. What if I could ask myself the question: If I could wake up tomorrow and do absolutely anything, what would that be and what if the only voice that I heard inside of my head was the one giving me the answer? Let’s take that to the next place. What if I could ask myself the question: What if the only voice that I heard inside my head was the one with the answer, and then what if I believed it was possible? What if I believed that it could be my reality? What if I believed it so much that it started to become my reality? What if that became my happy place? What if the belief in the possibility that I could do and be absolutely anything that I wanted, starting tomorrow, or what about starting right now. Starting right now in this moment, any one of us has the complete opportunity to be absolutely anything that we want to be and fulfill that place of passion or that place of motivation from within us with absolutely anything that we wanted to be. It is powerful, and as soon as we start to believe it, even for an instant, if you are anything like me and I can only imagine that you are, you have those thoughts that start running through your head, and for every thought that you have that says “Yes I can; I can absolutely do this. The sky is limitless. There is no limit!” For every thought that you have that says that, I am sure you have got 10 coming up right behind it that say why you can’t. At least that is the way that the little voice in my head seems to work a lot of the time. You know what is interesting though? The voice inside of my head continually tells me all of the reasons why it is not possible and why I shouldn’t do things when it is something I am exactly supposed to be doing. Sometimes I can ask myself the question, “What is it that I should be doing right now? And there is no voice, no dialogue in my head, and sometimes I just move forward so quickly on things that I did not even have to ask myself the question. I think that when we can think up the asking of the question with the doing of the answer and not allow that time and space in between for those contemplative thoughts to come in, I think we could make real progress.

One of the things that I often say both to myself and people around me when they ask about things that I am doing or have done: Why is this done, or how was I able to accomplish this? Or I ask myself: Why haven’t I accomplished this yet? What I found is that the truth for myself that if it were supposed to happen I would have done it already. The things that end up going on my to-do-later list or my procrastination list seem to hover there because maybe somehow deep down inside I am just not convinced that is the thing that I want to plan on or should be doing, but sometimes I will look back at my day or my week or my month or my year and I will just be simply amazed at everything that has happened, and if I think about it, I might have trouble even remembering where I started. Where did the motivation come from; what were the steps that I took to put this into place to create this as my reality? Where was that point of my decision? Sometimes it is really hard to find that place.

So let’s try this one more time. If I asked you the question, and I am asking you the question: If you could wake up tomorrow and you could do or be anything you wanted to be and you could do absolutely anything that you wanted to do, what would that look like? Paint the picture in your mind of what that experience, that thing, that purpose looks like, and please, if you have something and you are able to share it, I would love to see your comments about what that is. There is a secret: When you share with other people what it is that your innermost dream, desire, or goal is, you may be empowered to get a little bit closer to it. Of course, on the flipside, and here is that little voice in my head saying, “Okay, well, you gave this advice, now you better give the counter advice,” there is a great pep talk about why you should not share your dreams with other people because of that study that shares that people who share their goals with others are actually less likely to move towards their goals, and one of the reasons that they cite is because when you share your goal with other people, you are actually already living that goal in your mind to some extent, and the feelings that you imagine that you are going to feel when you reach that goal have already been felt, so then you don’t feel that it is necessary to move into that anymore. I would say take all of this under advisement. I would encourage you to have your dreams, and then I would talk about it. I would share it with people, because if you share it with people then your motivation and your passion for that is either going to increase or its going to decrease, and if it decreases of your own will, then maybe it is not the thing for you. If it decreases because of your friends and your family and the people around you say that it is not possible, them perhaps you should find new people to share it with, because it is absolutely empowering when we have something driving us from the inside and we are able to share it with other people.

A friend of mine decided that a burning desire within him was to do something maybe a little bit outrageous but highly motivating, and he had a whole vision and a whole goal behind why he was going to do this, and the thing that he chose was that he had this burning desire to become a model of inspiration for young people and to do this he thought that he needed to pick something that was just a huge, extreme goal that he could do. He could persevere through something and accomplish something so that he could become a beacon of inspiration for other people to say that: You can do this! If you have something within you that you feel that you need to do, you can absolutely do it. So my friend Austin put on a pair of rollerblades, and he started at the Statue of Liberty in New York City, and he skated on his own feet for over 3,000 miles on freeways, rural roads, I think through some fields, probably over some gravel. He skated over 3,000 miles to end up on the Santa Monica Pier in California to inspire people to go after their dream and to know that there are no limits other than what we perceive. I was at the finish line when Austin crossed. If you have ever been in a place where you have set a goal and you have worked day in and day out, and Austin woke up every single day and he skated. To do something repetitively that much every day for… this took months and months. He did it in under a year, I mean, it was pretty quick. Considering the fact that I probably put rollerblades on and skate from my house to the store on the corner, for Austin to do this is huge. So he did this every day. It became his living reality during the time that he was on the freedom skate, and he crossed the finish line and that was the moment that all of his goals and dreams and his aspirations. His “If you could wake up tomorrow and do absolutely anything,” his was that he wanted to skate across the country, and he did, and then he gets to the end and there is this pinnacle, this one moment where you are at the top of your mountain. It was an awesome experience to share with Austin, him being at the top of his mountain, and as we were walking across the beach after he had gone into to ocean in celebration, I was trying to ask but I did not want to put too many thoughts into his head but I wanted to say, “So, you are on the peak of your mountain. You set the goal that you set for yourself. You are standing there right now.” Do not try to put words to it, because if anyone has been at the top of the mountain, you probably would know what I am talking about. I have experienced mountain-ness a couple of times in my life, and I know when you are at the top of the mountain, words just wouldn’t do it justice and you couldn’t if you tried. The best thing that you could do is just revel in the moment of being there, and then what you do from there is wide open.

Once you have reached that pinnacle of being at the top of that mountain, and I use top in a figurative sense, it doesn’t have to be a top, but that is kind of an analogy that we are able to use to make sense of it. Once you have been there, anything is possible, absolutely anything, and I would wish for each of you to find yourselves at the top of that mountain, which is the result of you answering the question that if I could do or be anything what would that be, it is a reality and you can experience that, so start talking about it. Start believing that it is possible, and if you are around people who will not support you in that like Austin felt when he had this idea he thought he would bring it up and he thought people would laugh at him. You know, the good news for Austin is that he was surrounded by people who applauded him and said “You are not crazy, and if it is crazy, so what? Do it anyway.” He had the support that he needed to do it and he moved mountains, he really, really did. I wish that moment for each of you.

As I close today, I am going to read a little excerpt from a book that I am actually reading to put it together as a CD release and it will be going out on I-tunes. It comes from a manuscript by a gentleman by the name of Wallace Wattles, and it was written long enough ago that is in public domain, hence the reason why I can record it and release it. The Science of Getting Rich was written by Wallace D. Wattles and it was first published in 1910. If you have not yet read it, I highly recommend that you do. If you prefer to listen to things, then wait just a little bit and it will be released by Sandi, but today I would like to leave you with this:

“There is a thinking stuff from which all things are made and which, in its original state, permeates, penetrates, and fills the interspaces of the universe. A thought in this substance produces the thing that is imaged by the thought.”

Wallace Wattles puts this final little bit a different way, but I am going to make it even more relevant for you.

So if there is a thinking stuff from which all things are made, and a thought in this substance produces the thing that is imaged by the thought, then you absolutely can have and be and do anything that you absolutely want to. Just remember this. I can form things in my thought, and by impressing my thought on the formless substance can cause the thing that I think about to be created. This means that you are in charge of what it is that you want, whether it is something you want to do, to be, to have, or become, so I would encourage you to think about what that is with all seriousness. Think about it, dream about what you think could become possible for your life, and then lets live into it whether it is 1 person and 1 dream at a time or a whole bunch of us that are living into it, let’s create our amazing possibilities.

Until next time, I hope you have a fantastic dream in your mind and that you will share it with the world because the world is rooting for you to accomplish that just as much as you are, if not more.